Nearly two years ago, my wife and I went through something that forever strengthened and grew our relationship. Looking back on it, there was a lot of praying, tears, arguing, ups, downs, and much more. During these tough times, I had to keep reminding myself that there was going to be an end to this disease and that WE were going to beat it. Myself and our families played a key role in the recovery of my wife and this is the reason we strongly believe in the Maudsley method. My wife was one of the very first people to be treated with the Maudsley method as a young adult. We both believe this was the most effective method and did so much more that we could ever imagine. It greatly involved me, as her husband, to really be there for her and help get her through the tough times. It involves the family in the whole process and this is so huge because this surrounds the one suffering with constant love and support. It also gives others an understanding about anorexia and helps you to relate as much as possible.
I had many different emotions that went on during the whole recovery process but one of the most important things you can do is to be patient and be very encouraging. There were so many times that I just wanted to break down and say something negative, but in my experiences with that it only made things worse. Even the littlest negative things that you say can trigger something that you did not expect. You have to be positive in pushing your significant other and just keep reminding them that you are doing this out of love and support.
We were very fortunate as we caught my wife's anorexia very early on in the process. Although things did get bad fast because of some different complications, my wife got into a Maudsley program in about 6 months from the time we remember that it really started. We have not only each other to thank for her health today, but her family and my family as well. We are huge family people and we cannot stress enough how important of a role our families played. From her parents flying in from out of state to help in the beginning stages to my parents being there for support and encouragement. Just incredible what loved ones can do in peoples lives.
So remember today to stay positive and keep the encouragement coming because you are fighting through this together. Many blessings
Sunday, January 30, 2011
What started out as eating “healthier”. Eating less at meals because it “was better for you.” Skipping certain meals because “I am full from earlier.” These are just a few examples of what I started hearing in the beginning stages of anorexia. I didn’t realize at the time how fast this eating disorder could take over somebody’s life and take over a relationship. Let alone the damage it can cause on someone’s body, mind, and soul. I am happy to say however that after nearly 2 years WE have been recovered from this for over a year now. The reason I say we, is because my wife and I went through this together. We went through this, as did her family, my family, and close friends. I was with her every step of the way for encouragement, to push her, cry with her, eat with her. You name it and I was right there. When someone goes through something like this, they need someone who is willing to push them to the limits. No matter how much my wife argued, no matter how much she didn’t want to eat something, she knew I was doing it out of love. We are here to tell our story of what we went through and to help couples that may be experiencing something similar. We are here to help, from a first hand experience. Though it is tough, all that we do and say is out of love. Please feel free to contact us and we will be sure to get back in a timely manner. Blessings
D and K